Where is your MIND?

I remembered few years back i attended a course at Bintan resort Indonesia about the power and understanding the use of mind.

Lecturer: Where is your mind? (Alot point to their head)
Lecturer: No that's your brain.
Lecturer: Try again, where is your mind? (Few points to their chest)
Lecturer: No that's your heart!

So where is our mind? It took us half a day of lecture to understand it. But the most important thing that i have learnt is not where our mind is but is about using our mind to handle changes in life.

Life is a constant change and are we able to take it positively and are we aware of it? If you are able to take it then it's progress, if you can't, then it's stress. Changes are external, meaning you can have a choice to handle it anyway you like. However you must be aware of it in the first place. If you don't handle life well, you will be faced with all the shit life throws at you.

We were suppose to catch 2 frogs to carry out an experiment on awareness of changes of our surounding but thunder storm prevented us. The facilitator does it for us instead, poor fella, brave through the weather.

This is how the experiment was carried out, 2 glass container of same size, same volume of water was heated, 1 with the little froggy swimming inside, the other just water being heated.

5 mins later, the froggy inside container is still swimming happily unaware that the water temprature has increased. The lecturer throw another froggy into the other container and it immediately jumps out of the luke warm water. Not to harm any life, we stopped the experiment. If we were to carry on, the 1st poor froggy will be cooked unawared.

My thought: Many of us are aware of major changes that surrounds us but few have the ability to be aware of the minor little ones which amount to a BIG one. Constantly watch out for changes and reacts to it, or else you will be "cook" totally unawared.

Take things for granted

Last week i was limping due to an accident. I dropped a glass jar of sugar, one of the fragments flew and cut my heel area, severing a vein and blood gush profusely. Took almost 2 days for blood to clog.

Now the wound is almost healed and i can walk properly. Suddenly, this thought kept hovering in my mind. I took for granted that i can walk forever. I never thought of one day if i lose my mobility, what would happen!

This brings me to think of something else. I have been taking people around me for granted too! I never thought one of these days, things that i cherished most around me will be taken away, people i cherished most around me will leave me or pass away.

I suddenly remembered seeing the white hair of my parents reminding me that they are not young anymore. I suddenly remembered my grand father carrying me on his sturdy shoulder to see the "tong kang" at Singapore river when he goes to bank of china to do banking when i was really really young. I suddenly remembered him carrying me to see Chinese sin seh on his strong arms when i fractured my leg.

Now he is on the wheel chair, conscious but has lose his strength, even can't carry his great grand son no matter how hard he tries and wanted to. I suddenly realised one of these days, I'll be like him too.

My thought : Cherish the things and people around you. They might make you angry, argue with you, quarrel and caused emotional sadness. But, everyday as each day passes by, they are getting older and older.

One of these days, you might wake up without them around. Cherish your parents and partner especially, talk and communicate with them properly and efficiently. Shouting to put idea across is getting no where.

Remember this, time waits for no man (don't be too happy if you are a woman, time waits for no woman too.. )

Goal~~

Not talking about soccer here. But want to share something about achieving goals in life.

I was told this analogy. 5 people challenges each other to see who can reach the top of the building and start walking up the stair case, one said, why should we climb the stairs when we can take the lift? So he instigates 2 others to follow, 3 of them stopped on the 2nd floor and took the lift. Happily, the lift went up.

1 of the remaining 2 starts to complain why bother to walk when there is such a easy way out? The other person answers, there are something along the stairs which the other 3 in the lift will not experiance like we do. So they keep walking up.

Along the way, these 2 people encounter an old lady and offer their help to carry her heavy basket. They asked the old lady why she did not take the lift instead, answer was the lift always break down and she prefer to walk the stairs instead.

When they reach the old lady's house, she offered the 2 people some cold ice drinks as they were perspiring like mad to thank them. 1 decided to stay for awhile to rest in the old lady's cosy house while the other continues to walk the stairs.

Not long after, he heard the alarm of lift rings. The other 3 who took the lift were trapped. He carries on walking till he reaches the top and reaches his goal and won the challenge.

My thought: There is no short cut towards achieving goals, take any risk and you will be trapped in the lift. There are always temptations around to distract you from your goals, stay focus and do not rest in comfort zone or you will be like the one resting in the old lady's house. Most important, enjoy the the process towards your goals!

Till Death Do Us Apart

Do you marry someone who loves you 80 percent but you love her 100? This was the question posted to me by a friend who likes to make assumptions many years ago when we were having roti prata at geylang lor 5.

I chose "to love more than she loves me". Why? Many will agree that to be loved is most forunate, thus, if you really love your partner, you will agree that you want her to be the most fortunate person ya?

But, you must bear the consequence of constant draining of love from you. Are you prepared? When all love is drained, you will feel weak, emotionally and physically. Sounds scary for a long term relationship known as marridge ya?

Questions will come, why you are not like this or that before we get married?

The anwer is, we tend to attract things or people who's behaviour or mentality is alike. During courtship, the partner changes his/her behaviour or thinking to suits you as he/she is so in love with you. Once married, the person will go back to his usual behaviour slowly.

So during courtship, you have to ask assumption questions to your partner and study his/her reactions and answers. Don't wait till after married and ask why are you not like this or that before we get married.

My thought: When you made your marridge vow, do it seriously and keep in your mind constantly as it covers most aspects of conditions that will happen during the rest of your married life.

Life is too fragile

It was a raining night in 1998, my colleague called me for supper at whampoa market. He picked me up and proceed to pick another colleague. Supper was fabulous, we chit chat for almost 3 hours before we decided to head back home to rest as the next day was a working day.

While waiting for the traffic light to turn green, my colleague was joking and said, there must be a lot of accidents in such a rainy night. The very next moment, a lorry bang onto his car from the back. I was the back passenger.

Shocked!! We managed to climb out of the vehicle. Imagine this, his Mitsubishi lancer was reduced to half size. Thank god that i escaped death, only injury was few scratches at the neck from broken glass of the rear window.

My colleague said he pulled the hand break at the junction while waiting for the red light, the lorry driver said his vehicle did not respond to his break, thus our vehicle withstand the pounding from the back and crashed onto the metal divider. Front split and back gone.

We were in total shocked!! How could 3 of us escape death? Are we still alive or we have already turned into ghost watching over our cold dead bodies at the road side on that cold rainy night?

The prata shop owner ran out and talked to us asking if we were OK. Then i realised we are still alive and we asked him for 3 cups of ginger tea, TEH HALIA was the first drink i took after this near death encounter.

The next day we proceed to work as usual. But my life changed. I became more gentle and takes things easy. I do not get angry over little things and grumble over it. I realised life is fragile, why take it so seriously and held on to grudges.

My thought: Live your life to make your surrounding environment or people better, don't make their life difficult and be nice to people. Remember this, life is fragile and you may not wake up tomorrow after your sleep.