Do you marry someone who loves you 80 percent but you love her 100? This was the question posted to me by a friend who likes to make assumptions many years ago when we were having roti prata at geylang lor 5.
I chose "to love more than she loves me". Why? Many will agree that to be loved is most forunate, thus, if you really love your partner, you will agree that you want her to be the most fortunate person ya?
But, you must bear the consequence of constant draining of love from you. Are you prepared? When all love is drained, you will feel weak, emotionally and physically. Sounds scary for a long term relationship known as marridge ya?
Questions will come, why you are not like this or that before we get married?
The anwer is, we tend to attract things or people who's behaviour or mentality is alike. During courtship, the partner changes his/her behaviour or thinking to suits you as he/she is so in love with you. Once married, the person will go back to his usual behaviour slowly.
So during courtship, you have to ask assumption questions to your partner and study his/her reactions and answers. Don't wait till after married and ask why are you not like this or that before we get married.
My thought: When you made your marridge vow, do it seriously and keep in your mind constantly as it covers most aspects of conditions that will happen during the rest of your married life.
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